Celebrate Your Victories
There is a common misconception that we must be “perfect” or “better” in order to be worthy of compassion—that we are not deserving of it until we overcome our perceived shortcomings, limitations, or failures. Sometimes we may feel that we still have too much work to do or too many flaws to fix before we can allow ourselves grace. But this is not the case. In fact, self-compassion and imperfection go hand-in-hand. Self-compassion involves recognizing that suffering and perceived inadequacy are part of the shared human experience.
Self-compassion not only involves acknowledging this suffering and the things you’d like to do differently. It also involves acknowledging your victories and what you have already achieved today.
Because the healing journey is an ongoing process, personal victories achieved along the way can go unnoticed. You might have days where you feel you’ve made little progress in your healing. You might get frustrated and impatient, focusing on doubts, struggles, and setbacks you’ve experienced. These kinds of thoughts and feelings can happen instinctively, which is why it’s important to practice self-compassion and recognize that no matter where you are or what you’ve done (or haven’t done), you are strong and resilient now.
Today’s activity is about highlighting your present strength, courage, and impact. Similar to how you’ve been sharing a personal triumph during each check-in, this activity centers around noticing the good things you are already achieving every day and practicing self-kindness in the face of difficulties.
This could be anything you see as a personal triumph, no matter how small it may seem. Some examples might be:
- I got out of bed.
- I finished a project.
- I took a breath to ground myself.
- I held a boundary.
- I tried something new.
- I made progress on something important to me.
- I gave myself a compliment.
- I set aside time for self-care and/or play.
- I told my kids I loved them.
- I practiced safe touch.
- I engaged my body in movement.
- I ran an errand.
- I spent time outside.
- I noticed something beautiful and positive.
- I practiced self-compassion.